Your inner critic
The way we think about ourselves has a big impact on how we feel about ourselves and what we do in our daily life and how we interact with others. Ever heard of the “inner critic”? This is that annoying, powerful and sometimes very hurtful voice in your head that tells you all the things you’re not good at, all the reasons why you can’t do something and all the things people might think of you. Everyone has an inner critic – some have louder ones than others. The inner critic needs to be tamed so that it doesn’t impact how we feel about ourselves and this will allow you to take the power back!
Tips to build your self confidence
Remember! People who feel good about themselves tend to feel more confident!
What if I still feel bad about myself all the time?
If we have had negative experiences we have had in our early life, like not feeling loved or cared for, or being told that we were stupid or not good enough, then we can start to believe it is the truth about us! It is important to challenge these negative messages and realise that it doesn’t matter what has happened in the past, you create your own future.
The first step to challenging these messages that you were given is to understand the impact they are having on the way you think, feel and behave. There’s something called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (or CBT) that does exactly this. There are heaps of counsellors out there who know about CBT who can teach you how it works! Check out our ‘Getting Help’ section here for more info on counselling.